If You Want My Advice #4

Be adaptable.

I work twenty hours a week at a library.  I work four days a week and my schedule is different every day.  On Tuesdays I work from 3 pm till 8 pm.  On Wednesday I work 9 am till 2 pm.  I haven't always like closing on Tuesdays and opening on Wednesday.  But if fit the needs of our branch.  Today I was asked to permanently switch shifts with another half-time employee so that I would work from 9 am till 2 pm both Tuesdays and Wednesdays.  At first I wasn't sure I wanted to.  I like having a nice long morning on Tuesdays.  I can sleep in and take my dog for a long walk, work in the yard and take my time with getting ready for work.  But I decided to be adaptable and agree to the change.  When I got home and told my husband about the change, he was pretty happy.  Up until now, we don't have dinner or our evening together on Tuesdays.  He pointed out right away that we'd now have every evening of the week together.  I realized that in the six years that I've worked for the library, I've had to work at least one evening a week.  This is going to be a pleasant change for us.  I'm glad I decided to be adaptable to the needs of my fellow employee.  This will make her life a little easier and my husband is happy.

If You Want My Advice #3

Be willing to learn something new. 
When my mother-in-law died, I was given the opportunity to inherit her sewing machine.  I had never been a seamstress, but when my sister-in-law offered to teach me to sew, I took her up on it.  I like to think that I'm always willing to learn something new, and I enjoy spending time with my sister-in-law.  She taught me to make some table linens.  And I wondered, "After I get these done, what will I sew?"  I mean, you have to sew things in order to get better at sewing things, right?  One day at a quilt shop, I saw some instruction kits for appliqued panels.  Each one was about 10 x 14 and depicted a scene related to a different month of the year.  I thought that would be perfect.  I could have something to make each month and theoretically get better as I completed each month's project.  So I bought six, for July through December.  Sometime in the last week of each month I would make the panel for the next month.  And I did get better at it each month.  I found that I looked forward to doing each new one.  At the end of December, I realized that I could either go back to the quilt shop and get more of these panels OR I could try to come with some on my own. 
For January I decided on a snowman.  I know, it doesn't snow where I live, but when I think January, I think snow.  I found a simple snowman coloring page and printed it out.  I then traced each piece on paper and transferred the pieces to material.  I use an interfacing that is double sided. I ironed the interfacing the pieces of material and then ironed all of the pieces onto my background.  I wanted the snowman to have a cute embellishment so I found a youtube video with instructions for making a flower out of a scrap of material.  After appliqueing the whole thing, I used buttons for the eyes and nose.

I have to say that as I was making this particular panel, I became more and more proud of myself.  I turned out much cuter than I expected.  And it is entirely my own creation!!  I'm already planning out my panel for next month!

If You Want My Advice #2

I love giving gifts.  I spend time thinking about the person and try to find that perfect gift, the thing that they really need or have mentioned that they really want.  I try to find something that matches them.  I love getting gifts.  I love it when someone comes up with something just right for me.  Something that tells me that they have put some thought into the gift-giving experience.  But I am also convinced that the perfect gift can be something that isn't a thing at all.  We all have plenty of things, don't we?  How many times have you said "Why do we have so much stuff?!"  Last year for Christmas, I gave my Dad two tickets to a Harlem Globetrotters game, one for him and one for me.  We went to the game together.  And it was a fun time.  Just doing something together.  This year my daughter gave me and Tom two nights in Mendocino so we could explore the north coast.  That was the perfect gift.  Time away with my favorite person, seeing part of the state that we don't get to very often. 
So as I contemplated what to do for my Dad's birthday, I wanted something that would be perfect.  I was thinking about what I would want to tell him that would be special, other than "I love you."  He knows I love him.  But I've never told him what he has taught me.  So that is what I gave him.  His birthday is today.  Last night some family members gathered to celebrate his 77th birthday.  I got a nice birthday card and on a separate sheet of paper I wrote out some of the things he has taught me. 
My dad taught me to honor my commitments.  He and my mom were married for 50 years.  For the last several years of my mom's life, she was not able to get around or do much.  I never heard my dad complain about his world closing in as hers did.  Instead I saw him honor her by always being with her, by caring for her and by being a loving, attentive husband. 
My dad taught me to adapt to change.  He was a career Air Force man during the Viet Nam War and because of that, we would have to move often, sometimes with very little notice.  By his example, I learned to go with the changes without complaint, recognizing that this was the life we lived.  When my mom died, my dad grieved, but then accepted that he had to move on with his life.  He was 72 years and knew that he needed someone in his life.  So he told my brother and I that he was going to start dating, with the goal to find someone special.  And he found someone perfect for him.  Dawn was also widowed.  She cares for Dad and Dad cares for her.  They travel together, laugh together and share life.
My dad taught me to being accepting of others.  There probably are people that my dad doesn't especially like, but I can't really guess who they are because he doesn't treat people differently.  Everyone was accepted into our home. 
There are so many other things I could list that my dad taught me, but you get the point.  His birthday was the perfect chance to give my dad a special gift.  
   

If You Want My Advice #1

I have found that it is the little things that make a big difference.  Making your bed in the morning is one of those little things.  I know, you want to sleep as late as you possibly can so you have your morning routine timed to the millisecond.  Shower, groom, dress, grab coffee and head out the door.  But you'd be surprised at how much just making your bed can change things for you later in the day. 
Just pulling the covers up and smoothing them out makes the rest of the room seem tidier and more inviting.  You can have clutter elsewhere, but when the bed looks neat, everything looks neat.  An army of dust bunnies can be amassing under the bed, but when the top of the bed is tidy, it somehow holds back the masses.  Of course, you'll want to start with a bed that is simple to make.  Give up on the hospital corners and don't knock yourself out if you can't bounce a quarter on the thing.  Just grab the covers all together and pull them up, fluff the pillows and lay them where the top of the covers are.  No one will know that you did a somewhat haphazard job.  It will look much better already.  If you have an array of decorative pillows that were pushed to the floor the night before, pick them up and spread them around.  Now the floor is clear and the pillows are hiding any other lumps that may have been missed.  Doesn't it look better already?  It takes just seconds but makes a big improvement.  I usually make my bed while I'm swishing mouthwash around in my mouth or waiting for the curling iron to heat up.  That's about how long it takes. 
At the other end of the day, when you walk into the bedroom, everything seems more inviting.  You won't have to sort out the covers.  One person hogged the covers, they're laying half on and half off the bed, pillows have been flung aside.  You want to GO to bed but you have to MAKE the bed before climbing in.  Making the bed in the morning eliminates this routine.  And because the covers have been smoothed out all day, the material feels so much better on your skin.  You can peel the covers back, lay your head on the pillow and fall asleep.  Sleep well!    

Jewelry Making

My creative juices started flowing when I decided to learn how to sew.  Now I've added another outlet for creativity.  I'm teaching myself how to make my own jewelry.  It came about because I love jewelry but couldn't always find exactly what I wanted.  I decided that I would just make my own.  It's been going pretty well.  I went to a bead shop, U Bead It, with my friend Evelyn.  I bought a set of tools - wire cutters and crimpers.  I bought a how-to book.  And I bought an assortment of beads.  Here is my first necklace:

It's pretty long so I usually wear it doubled.  I made a couple more necklaces before moving on to earrings.

I enjoy making earrings more than anything.  It's fun and I can get a lot of satisfaction out of it.  I'm really liking all of the earrings I've made.

This is a pair of earrings with a matching necklace.  The necklace took me a long time to make.  I kept taking it apart because it wasn't working out the way I wanted it.  I'm pretty happy with the way it turned out in the end.

This is a pair of earrings with a matching bracelet.  I love this bracelet.  It's made with memory wire.  It just wraps around your wrist.  It was so easy to make.

I'm really enjoying this new hobby.  I love going to the bead shop and looking at beads, waiting for inspiration.  Making the jewelry is a satisfying form of therapy for me.  And I get new earrings, bracelets and necklaces anytime I want them.  My next project may have to be a way to store all these new things. 

Sew Some Towels

Tom gave me a challenge a couple of weeks ago: get some new kitchen towels and embellish them to match our table linens.  I do believe in stealing ideas, so I went on-line to see what other people have done.  I found someone who bought plain white kitchen towels and sewed their own material to "personalize" them.  They sewed a five inch strip from one side to the other and then sewed a two-inch contrasting piece both above and below the larger strip.  It looked easy, was within my capabilities and was totally cute.  I decided to do the same.  I went to Target and bought some white kitchen towels.  When I got them home I looked at them more closely and noticed that the edges of the towels had a rather thick hem and I didn't think that it would work to sew pieces of material onto those hem.  It would be way too thick.  So I did what I normally do: I changed my plan.  Since I didn't want to sew anything onto the thick hem, I would sew material up to the hem.  It would look too funny to then have the white hem out on the edge so diamonds would be a good idea.  This meant that I was going to have to actually do a little math.  The towels were 14.5" from one hem to the other.  I wanted four diamonds sewed on.  I had to figure out how wide each diamond would have to be to fit without any overlapping.  After some calculating, I needed each diamond to be 3 7/8" across after the seam allowance.  I cut out the diamonds and pinned them onto all four towels before sewing any of them.  It took me quite awhile to do the pinning in order to get everything lined up right.  I discovered that during the sewing process, there was a little bit of shifting, but for the most part the diamonds ended up pretty up where they were supposed to. 

And I STILL have more of that material left!! 

Sew, So Cute

From the "Sew, So Cute" book

My own creation

I came across a Mary Engelbrite sewing book at the library called "Sew, So Cute."  There was a pattern in it for pot holders.  Since I still have material left from the placemats and table runner, I decided to make some new pot holders to match.  It went pretty well.  I only sewed the "wrong sides" together and had to rip it out once.  I knew how to sew on the binding from doing the placemats, but couldn't remember every little detail.   I was determined not to have to ask my sister-in-law for any help, so I just started with what I thought would work, did it wrong and had to do it over on the first pot holder.  As I was re-doing it, I had a couple of "Oh yeah!" moments and everything started to come back to me, which made the second one go so much better.  While I was at it, I made two other pot holders out of the same material but with a different pattern.  These went much quicker since there is no binding.  I really like making things for my kitchen!!