Life

I've heard it said that people can't hurt you without your permission. I do agree with that to a certain extent. People who cut in front of you at the grocery store or are rude on the phone should not be given permission to hurt you. You need to let that sort of thing roll off your back. Even a co-worker who is in a bad mood and snaps at you should be ignored as best you can.
But there are some people who will hurt you and there is nothing you can do about it, by virtue of the fact that you are close to them, love them and are in the kind of relationship that warrants hurt feelings when they do certain things. If a husband falls out of love with a wife, that hurts. If a daughter has no time for her parents, that hurts. If a dear, dear friend walks away, that hurts. And why do those things hurt? They hurt because when we enter into a close, loving relationship with someone, we allow people to hurt us. That is not a bad thing. We want close, loving relationships. We want dear, dear friends. If we didn't allow ourselves to be hurt by other people, then we would know that we were keeping people at arm's length. We would know that we weren't really close to people and that we didn't allow people to get close to us. When someone says that you should not give others permission to hurt you, what they're really saying is that they don't want to be close to others. They have chosen to keep others on a superficial level, never really letting anyone get too close because they don't want any pain.
God promises to wipe every tear, but He wipes them as they fall. He wipes them as we cry in pain. He intended that we would be relational. He wants us to be close to others, while knowing that sometimes relationships will make us cry.